The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck: A Giving Back to Oneself

Entitlement. Avenging oneself. These boil down to asserting a right, which the Constitution enshrined. By the way, are they worth your time, effort and energy? Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, while cathartic, is enlightening. It aids the reader to choose which is worth giving attention to.

Truism it is that things go wrong, people upset us, accidents happen. Sometimes they suck, at times they constitute a fuckery we either rationalize or overthink. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck brings awareness why we give many fucks to many passing things. Could it be related to our quest for happiness that disappointments get magnified? If happiness is not a magical discovery and results from action, like a worthwhile activity, then would not it be necessary to pick and choose what really matters? Similarly, we need to embrace better standards and values, set better metrics, and choose better things to give a fuck about. Thus, we reject those that fail to conform or diminish ours. By then, we get better problems to act upon in the first place.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is reassuring. While life is not interesting without struggles, it teaches the importance of ascertaining fuckable issues. Such that it is in well-chosen adversities that we grow, see our potential, and become strong-minded and successful adults. It follows that by accepting negative feelings along the way we acquire positive attitude. A trait we need, to sustain the pain that leads to greater heights. Manson reiterates further that suffering through our fears and anxieties is what allows us to build courage and perseverance. Consequently, by learning what to give a fuck about, we liberate ourselves from mediocre fuckeries. More importantly, we get to appreciate life better.

Most often, happiness comes from the ordinary like having a cup of coffee while reading a good book. And as Manson puts it, the key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more. It is giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important. Thus, we give not a fuck about the flood of extreme information, which the modern communication has brought. Commercials, for one, make us need things we do not actually do. By the way, do we really need a numerous Facebook likes and shares? (Maybe yes, to sustain our desire for exceptionalism.) As we set our own standards, values and metrics toward happiness, we can always identify what things we should give a fuck about. A better life is one. A better state of mind is another.

Published in 2016 by First HarperOne, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck is a self-help book. Composed of nine chapters in 211 empowering pages, the reader would learn more about himself and handle worthwhile fucks. He would claim his own greatness whether other people realize it or not. Whether to mind other people’s useless fucks or to care about their standards-and-values that run below nicety-and-morality.